Self-Control
“By constant self-discipline and self-control, you can develop greatness of character.”
Hello Friends,
I hope everyone is doing great, and I hope last week's tips helped enhance your self-love and worth for moving towards balance in life. To strengthen our harmony, we should be mindful of the ability to control emotions and desires, especially in difficult situations; this is the essence of self-control. Having a strong sense of self-control is setting boundaries with yourself. Self-control enables us to achieve goals, evaluate alternative actions, and not give in to destructive impulses that allow us to stay within our limits to reach fulfillment. These three simple tips will help you gain control of yourself.
Tip #1: Become Responsible
Being responsible for your actions is the first step to gaining self-control. Create a mindset of acceptance when mistakes happen. Avoiding acknowledging actions or behaviors will not make them disappear and will most likely lead to the same activities happening again. When ownership is taken, there is no reason to make excuses or justifications because we are focused on moving to the next step of creating action from what we learned. Remember that we gain knowledge and growth when we have the mindset of moving onward to make progress with purpose and understanding. Please forgive yourself after you have taken responsibility. We all make honest mistakes and assumptions, but how we overcome and persevere will make a lasting impact. Check out tip two in the Self-Love and Worth Blog for more techniques for forgiving yourself.
Tip#2: Create a plan
Once we have taken ownership of a lack of self-control, the next step is to create a plan. This plan can trigger your brain to be mindful of your self-control goals. Writing an outline for ourselves is essential. This plan should list the impulse(s) you want to eliminate, why you need to gain control, ways to counter your impulses, goals, and rewards for reaching your goals. Remember to put your plan into practice, focus on consistency, and if adjustments need to be made, adjust them.
Tip #3: Motivation
There needs to be a willingness to try to gain control. There should be value in what you are doing and why you are doing it. Motivation helps create willpower to help combat temptations. Consider what will motivate you to gain control and focus on that. Come up with a reward system that will enable you to continue gaining control rather than giving into impulses that will hinder you. Taking time to appreciate and reward yourself for the growth provides value in what you are doing and why you are doing it, motivating you to continue striving for satisfaction.
Take time to strengthen the harmony within yourself by gaining more self-control and taking responsibility by making plans. Rome was not built in a day; remember to embrace the trials and errors while building your kingdom.
Stay tuned for next week's blog! I will be posting about how to overcome guilt and shame.
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Many blessings, and remember, you are a miracle!